Love is patient, love is kind.... I try to have my behavior embody the structure of love laid out in Corinthians 13. I try to come to my interactions with others from this place of deeply respecting love and relationships. From my perspective love and relationships whether they are romantic or not are the foundation of life, they are the whole point of all the other good and bad and wonderful things out there. Relationships are the why of why we came here in the first place. I try and bring with me a desire to demonstrate and speak to the people I allow into my little world in a way that shows them how much I appreciate them, that I hope for them, I am reliable, consistent and will always be there good and bad. I want them to feel seen, understood and deeply loved.
I come into it with the need to behave in these ways that I seek to receive for two reasons... first, I recognize that if I would need those things and they would feel amazing to me, someone else probably does too. Second, this behavior embodies the kind of human being I want to be in this world. I don't particularly care if it is easy, and I am in no way afraid of other people's bad days and shadowy aspects. I am more than willing to stand by someone, with a level of loyalty that can turn on me in extreme situations.
I find for myself that because I recognize the profound gift someone has for me in my life and the beauty of my feelings for them that I often lose sight of my own shores in diving into those waters. I lose the grounding of my own truths, my own cup needing replenished through the relationship via an acknowledgement from the other person that the connection is important to them as well, a clarity on how they feel about me, and their pouring themselves into the interactions in the same way. Balance between the two is necessary for a thing to edify, heal, grow both people through the truths, the vulnerability, the feelings that a relationship has to offer.
And there are times when you care for someone who, for reasons all their own, can not or will not engage with you on a level you need to gain this balance. So a choice has to be made and it needs to be made not from anger, or resentment but from love for them as well as yourself. You have to accept that they just can't be with you and it is the best thing that can happen for them. We need to allow them their free will, their life, their choices and know that when they go, they go with God. You also need to acknowledge for yourself your own need to be held, not just in arms but in words and time and action. You can not expect yourself to hold space for someone who will not step into it with you. You can beg, barrow and steal and that is not going to change what they decide to do. You just have to get yourself right with the fact they may not belong in your life no matter how much you deeply desire it.
The things is, I want to be someone's choice not someone they were convinced to be with. Not someone who chased them down in whatever state they are in and won't speak about for whatever reason. Chasing someone is not allowing life to be guided by a flow of truth, it is resistance to what is. It is resistance to dropping the need to control the outcome once you have done everything you possibly can for the best in a situation. Sometimes we come to a point where it is necessary to acknowledge we have hit the wall on what we can do. We have come to a place where we recognize there is no more for us to do, nothing we have done may have changed or might change the outcome. We need to just accept it right now for what it is not what we might hope it would have been or could be. Allow, just allow.
If you stood at the shores of the universe and sent out a call and they did not answer it perhaps when the call went out it was heard and will be answered by someone else who is meant to be in your life. Walk your own path with the grounding in the absolute perfection of divine will. For, God/Source/The Divine/The Universe knows and is able to see far more than I am and because I know this I can get myself right with the allowing it to be exactly as it is.
I come into it with the need to behave in these ways that I seek to receive for two reasons... first, I recognize that if I would need those things and they would feel amazing to me, someone else probably does too. Second, this behavior embodies the kind of human being I want to be in this world. I don't particularly care if it is easy, and I am in no way afraid of other people's bad days and shadowy aspects. I am more than willing to stand by someone, with a level of loyalty that can turn on me in extreme situations.
I find for myself that because I recognize the profound gift someone has for me in my life and the beauty of my feelings for them that I often lose sight of my own shores in diving into those waters. I lose the grounding of my own truths, my own cup needing replenished through the relationship via an acknowledgement from the other person that the connection is important to them as well, a clarity on how they feel about me, and their pouring themselves into the interactions in the same way. Balance between the two is necessary for a thing to edify, heal, grow both people through the truths, the vulnerability, the feelings that a relationship has to offer.
And there are times when you care for someone who, for reasons all their own, can not or will not engage with you on a level you need to gain this balance. So a choice has to be made and it needs to be made not from anger, or resentment but from love for them as well as yourself. You have to accept that they just can't be with you and it is the best thing that can happen for them. We need to allow them their free will, their life, their choices and know that when they go, they go with God. You also need to acknowledge for yourself your own need to be held, not just in arms but in words and time and action. You can not expect yourself to hold space for someone who will not step into it with you. You can beg, barrow and steal and that is not going to change what they decide to do. You just have to get yourself right with the fact they may not belong in your life no matter how much you deeply desire it.
The things is, I want to be someone's choice not someone they were convinced to be with. Not someone who chased them down in whatever state they are in and won't speak about for whatever reason. Chasing someone is not allowing life to be guided by a flow of truth, it is resistance to what is. It is resistance to dropping the need to control the outcome once you have done everything you possibly can for the best in a situation. Sometimes we come to a point where it is necessary to acknowledge we have hit the wall on what we can do. We have come to a place where we recognize there is no more for us to do, nothing we have done may have changed or might change the outcome. We need to just accept it right now for what it is not what we might hope it would have been or could be. Allow, just allow.
If you stood at the shores of the universe and sent out a call and they did not answer it perhaps when the call went out it was heard and will be answered by someone else who is meant to be in your life. Walk your own path with the grounding in the absolute perfection of divine will. For, God/Source/The Divine/The Universe knows and is able to see far more than I am and because I know this I can get myself right with the allowing it to be exactly as it is.
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